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Date Two
Agree to Disagree
Addressing Conflict
69% of all relationship conflicts are perpetual — they never fully resolve. The goal isn't to win, it's to understand the dreams inside each other's positions.
Exercises
- Identify one perpetual conflict you return to, and one solvable problem that's been annoying you.
- Share your conflict history: How did your family handle disagreement growing up? What did anger, repair, and silence look like?
- Practice the Speaker–Listener exercise — one person speaks from the "I", the other reflects back before responding.
- Uncover the dream within the conflict: behind your position, what are you really longing for, afraid of, or honoring?
- Offer each other a repair attempt and agree on a phrase to use mid-fight when things get heated.