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Date Three
Let's Get It On
Sex & Intimacy
Most couples have never actually talked about sex — they've only had it. Great lovers are made through conversation, not discovered.
Exercises
- Separately write down what great sex means to you — emotionally, physically, spiritually — then trade and discuss.
- Share your sexual history with each other: favorite memories together, moments of closeness, times you felt distant.
- Talk about how you like to be approached, what builds desire for you, and what kills it.
- Create a shared "love map" of intimacy: fantasies you're curious about, things you want to try, things that are off the table.
- Agree on a ritual of connection — a cue, a gesture, a habit that invites intimacy without pressure.