Eight Dates
Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love — John & Julie Gottman
Eight structured conversations designed to deepen connection, surface assumptions, and build shared meaning. Each date has its own page with a theme, discussion questions, and hands-on exercises drawn from the Gottmans' research.
Lean on Me
Trust & Commitment
Trust is built in small moments of turning toward your partner; commitment is choosing to cherish what you have.
Open → Date TwoAgree to Disagree
Addressing Conflict
69% of conflicts are perpetual — the goal isn't to win, it's to understand the dreams beneath each other's positions.
Open → Date ThreeLet's Get It On
Sex & Intimacy
Great lovers are made through conversation, not discovered. Talk about what sex means before you talk about what you want.
Open → Date Four · FeaturedWhat Money Can (and Can't) Buy
Work & Money
Money fights aren't really about money — they're about what money means. Uncover each partner's money story before talking numbers.
Open → Date FiveRoom for Two (or More)
Family
Family is the deepest test of shared meaning: whose rituals win, whose wounds repeat, whose values get passed on.
Open → Date SixLifelong Love Needs a Playful Heart
Play & Adventure
Play is the antidote to contempt. Couples who keep adventuring together build resilience against routine.
Open → Date SevenYou, Me, and Us
Growth & Spirituality
A great relationship supports each person becoming more themselves. This date is about the inner life and what gives it meaning.
Open → Date EightA Lifetime of Love
Dreams
The final date is about legacy — the story you want to tell together at the end of your life. Honoring each other's dreams is the deepest act of love.
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